really enjoy staying at hometown these 3 days

    I went back to hometown during the last 4 days to apply for the the
certification of my household register from Shi Yan Dong Yue road police
station, together with me , many of my colleagues also went back to
get it . we met this Monday in the station, the feeling of assembling at
another place was great. and the certifications were  released to us
very quickly.
   during these days I stayed at home, the atmosphere was not bad
although papa was a little unpleasant as before,  I bought 4 batteries and
fixed them in the battery case of the blood pressure scale , it continued
to work, mom , I , and my brother were all very happy to see that the
scale was able to work again!
   before I returned to my hometown, Papa suspected that maybe  I will
not able to withdraw money form my lost debit card , but after my
explanation about the issue, he realize that I have much hope to do that, I
think he fell much  better now.
   I went to internet cafe trice, and YanHu lake once, the weather
during my staying  was perfect, I enjoyed it .
   my brother and I discussed something on love ,relationship, and
marriage, maybe we should more practical ,more reasonable , perfect love and
marriage is something rarely happened!
   there are so many pretty girls around us, but destination doesn't
fulfill our wills. each one has his (her) individual path of marriage and
life. 

Lei Bao's wedding

I felt good during the wedding, the atmosphere was very good, people acted quietly and without too many people , I felt the quietness and the harmony, people needed not pretend to be happy,because we were really happy and we were familiar to one another.
I wish when I get married, I will not invite too many people, I will invite the people who I really know , I will not care the artificial things, but the wedding should be full of laughters, I will prefer to play classical music to achieve the happy and tranquil effect.
I am happy that I attended Leibao and Longjie's wedding.

what is love

sometimes I wonder what love is . I was introduced to a girl , who I don't know before, we met just because I and she both haven't gotten married respectively. I don't care who she is, I care much to what personality she owns, if she is generous, honest, lovely, I wish she could love me ,and we can get married, if she don't like me or she care little of me, then we should not be together.
in my case, I am not sure whether she likes me, but I know we are indifferent to each other, at least now. I am not young , I wish I could form a family soon, but if she is not the person who I love or I don't match her requirement, the possibility of getting married is slim.
I encounter several girls, I don't like most of them instinctively, I think this instinct comes from chemical reaction between man and woman, the smell, the way of speaking ,the feeling to her or his voice ,etc, they can be perceived immediately . I know I have some defects, I am not perfect, I am even odd, but I am I , I can't be someone else, my spirit can't escape from my body, I can't change my appearance drastically , my voice comes from my throat, my teeth look not perfect.
may god bless me . may my parents and brother understand my situation. may one day I are able to marry with a girl who loves me and are loved by me!

Sunday with Liu Shuang

today I went to Liu shuang's place, I met her sisters ,her mother and her grandfather, as well as her colleagues. first we went to shopping mall and bought some fish , fruits, vegetable, then we went to her place, she lived in dormitory of her company, it is simple and her 2 sisters all have baby, Liu Shang kept in taking care of their babies, it seemed she enjoyed it very much.
later, the lunch time came, we went to to dining room of her company and because today is Sunday,most of the employees had gone home , we can sit around a table and drink beer or wine.the hosts were very hospitable , they persuaded me drinking a lot, they were all good people, although the foods were not fit my taste very much.
after luncheon , they returned to the booth near the front gate , they played MaJiang , four of them will participate the game and rest of them sat around them and watched the progress of the game, including her mother , her sisters , her grandfather, her colleagues. Liu Shuang didn't look at me directly, maybe she paid much attention to me without making me aware of it .
at last , I told her that I want to leave, she accompanied me to a broad way where I can order a taxi, we said good bye each other.
I don't know whether we can continue to see each other, or whether our relation could improve in the future.

excert from perfSpot blog 2007.8.17

How can one person invade your thoughts and enable you from thinking or doing something.
Stopping you dead in your tracks; you close the book your reading because you've read the same sentence six times.
That single slip of thought that runs into a memory and your lost in the glitter of the moment.

Or how one look can overwhelm the senses and the mind.
That one movement, the flicker of the eyes imprinting themselves into another, for an everlasting moment of unreal fantasy.

Im afraid to fall asleep, where i have no control over my thoughts about you,
while im wide awake i can dream my own dreams; you make sleep impossible.
But everytime i close my eyes my mind flutters across snapshots taken by my eyes, of your smile, your eyes, your unforgettable moments.

hang-up inverse

below paragraphs are from steve's blog

Hangin out

Here's a shot of me trying out this awesome new upside-down back-stretcher thing that I just bought and man it is soooo sparking my creativity. I'm in it for eight to ten hours a day, and go home feeling completely refreshed. Jonathan Ive has been doing all his work in one of these for years -- maybe that's why he can "think different," eh? -- and he has been bugging me for like forever to try one. I'll admit I was pretty skeptical plus I didn't want the hassle of having to rearrange my office and put all the iMacs and desks and phones upside down. But now that I've switched there's no going back. Seriously. I can't recommend it enough. I really think this is going to be huge, like people are going to redesign entire office parks around this. It's that much better in terms of productivity.

INVERSION THERAPY: A NATURAL APPROACH TO CORRECTING BACK PROBLEMS

So you think hanging upside down to relieve back pain is some wacky, new-age idea? Think again. Itís believed that inversion was used as early as 400 B.C., when Hippocrates, the father of medicine, first watched a patient have his knees and ankles tied to a ladder to be hoisted upside down for a dose of whatís come to be known as spinal traction.

The Greek theories on inversion are still valid, but today there is a much easier way to relieve the back pains most people experience from time to time. The process is called inversion therapy, and it can be the natural way to a better back and a better body.

Back pain is one of the most common physical complaints in the world. Every day, itís estimated that some eleven million Americans struggle to get through a day complicated by an aching back. In the United States alone, some 93 million workdays are lost each year due to back problems. There is overwhelming evidence that spending a few minutes each day hanging upside down can be beneficial to your back, and to your general health, by simply counteracting the continuous downward pull of gravity. Hang Ups inversion equipment offers a safe and comfortable way for anyone to benefit from the soothing sensation of inversion.

The concept of turning the body upside down for better health has been around for centuries. In yoga, the ìShirsonanaî headstand position has been used by yoga practitioners as a rather painful form of ìpostural exchangeî (reversing the direction of gravity). However, not everyone wants to do headstands, and that created the market for Hang Ups inversion tables, gravity boots, and racks.

Over time, the compressive force of gravity is particularly harsh on the spine because of the flattening effect on the spinal discs. The intervertebral discs act as shock absorbers between the vertebra, and consist of a cartilage covering which surrounds a gelatin-like center. Combine the compressive effect of gravity with stress, weak back and stomach muscles, or an exercise program, and you have all of the ingredients for back pain.

There are a minimum of 32 pounds per square inch (psi) of pressure on each spinal disc, even when a person is lying down. When we stand up, the pressure triples to about 100 psi. And when you sit down, spinal disc pressure rises to a whopping 225 pounds per square inch! Inverting the body is the only way to completely reverse the negative effects of gravity.

Of course, itís impossible to offset the ìpostural debtî of a lifetime just by jumping on an inversion table. But by spending a few minutes inverted each day, two or three times a day, people begin to feel results by the end of the first week. After a month of inversion, most people donít know how they ever got along without it.

Both physicians and chiropractors report positive results from using natural gravity-inversion traction with patients. A neurosurgeon in San Francisco says, ìIt [inversion] seems to get people over the acute phase quicker than other forms of therapy. We believe that inversion can benefit the discs, strengthen ligaments and soft tissues, and relieve muscle spasms. Weíve also had success with patients suffering from herniated discs.

Besides providing relief from back pain, a daily dose of inversion can help to promote good health by correcting common spinal alignment problems, eliminating tension headaches, reducing hemorrhoids, alleviating the discomfort of varicose veins, and stimulating mental alertness.

Inversion was popularized by Dr. Robert Martin, a Pasadena orthopedic specialist. Dr. Martin encouraged his patients to pursue an inversion-therapy program as a first-round alternative to back surgery. He provided relief to hundreds of patients through inversion, and patented his own brand of inversion equipment in 1963.

In 1982, Dr. Martin told The Wall Street Journal, ìItís very simple why inversion works. All day long weíre either standing or sitting, with gravity pressing down on us. Hanging by the feet allows our bodies to decompress, our spines to be realigned, and our joints to separate. A little inversion goes a long way, and the relief it brings is often almost instantaneous.

Quite simply, inversion allows gravity to help the body to naturally correct and align itself. You stretch out and elongate your spine, get blood to the brain, invert and reposition internal organs, and take stress off of the heart, which usually has to pump blood ìuphillî to the brain.

As with any new exercise program, if someone is in doubt about their level of fitness, or if they are over the age of 40, consult a physician before starting an inversion program. Inversion is not recommended for people with extreme weight problems, those with a history of stroke, acute back injuries, or high blood pressure, and it is very important that people with these conditions consult with their doctor before trying inversion. Also, individuals who have bone disease, retinal detachment, or any other serious eye disorders would be advised to avoid inversion without their doctors permission.

For someone with a back problem about to begin a program of inversion therapy, Hang Ups has a few helpful suggestions.

Begin slowly: Invert only 15 to 20 degrees at first, and stay inverted only as long as it feels comfortable, which may only be a few seconds at first. Remarkably, you can gain all of the benefits of inversion without ever fully inverting yourself. Most people find 20 to 60 degrees of decline adequate and very comfortable.

Make changes gradually: Increase the angle of decline only if it is comfortable, and only increase the angle a few degrees at a time. The Hang Ups F5000III inversion table has a tether strap to help people stay within their inversion range. People can add rocking back and forth (rhythmic traction) to their inversion program once they feel comfortable.

Pay attention to your body: Youíre unique, and your body will tell you whatís good for it. You determine the pace when adapting to the inverted world.

Keep moving while inverted: Use intermittent traction (pull and release) or rhythmic traction to encourage blood, lymph, and spinal fluid circulation. Moving, twisting, stretching, and light exercise while inverted aids in the alignment of bones and organs while minimizing any increase in blood pressure, but strenuous exercise is not recommended while inverted. Just relax and enjoy!

Do it regularly: There are a variety of inversion programs and exercises. Trust yourself to find the approach thatís best for you, and then do it every day. Two or three short sessions a day seem to work best for most people.

Based on years of research and the testimonials of hundreds of people who have found relief from back pain, inversion is a powerful, natural option for people who want to relieve lower back pain. Sometimes thereís an explanation for why inversion works, and sometimes there isnít - it works for some and not for others. We only know that, for many people, literally ìturning their world upside downî through inversion therapy can provide an alternative to drugs and surgery in a life filled with daily pain.

image of a cute little girl

this evening when I reviewed the photos I took a couple of days ago, to my surprise I saw this picture, it is the photo of a little girl , I wondered who she is , was this photo taken by me? no, I can't remember , I didn't took this . later I realize that maybe this image was taken by one of my colleagues, because she had borrowed my camera about half a month ago. maybe the girl in the photo is her daughter. the girl is a very lovely girl . I have no girl friend now, when will I can get married and what will my daughter look like?

my summer vacation was a total disarster

I had a very bad vacation this summer, I lost my wallet , in it there were my ID ,debit card ,card for recording my entry time and leaving time in workdays and cash. In china , we have a relatively strict household register administration, so it took me time and energy to reclaim another one . until now my debit card in a commercial bank has not accepted my formal loss report due to I have two different ID NO. what I can do is to wait to the day after tomorrow, when the holiday is over and our accountant go to work , I are able to ask for his help .
another reason why I was depressed is that I can not find any conform when I stayed with my papa, he was a silent old man , and I don't like him at all. I don't like him because of his gloomy temper ,his overacting when he encounter any problem.he always tends to think too much on a meaningless nothing.I don't know how to live together with him in the future.
on the other hand , mom and brother are good to me. I can barely stay there at home,it was hot ,there are no computer or DVD player or something like that, the only thing I could do were reading or listening to the music which were displayed by my cellphone , or watching TV which I was not very fond of . my papa almost never leave his house, he was absolutely solitary , he must suffer much bitterness by doing this, I am worried of him indeed, but I was weak to save him from this tragic condition.he was absolutely stubborn and he is 64 years old , I am sad whenever I think of my papa.he is a dark shadow in my and my brother's mind. after I leaving papa ,mom and brother yesterday, I am free now in another city far away from hometown, but I really worry about my brother's life covered by this gloomy shadow .
due to boringness , I took some photos, the daffodil is beautiful , the man in the other picture is me .

other bloggers show me amazing lives in other areas of the globe

thanks to the guys who are working in google blogger,tonight I have the opportunity of go to other bloggers' spaces and know part of their lives, their precious part of life! one women with her name Heidi showing me her realistic life in New Mexico , and I enjoy it solely because of her straight recording of her feeling , thank you so much. maybe we are not clever enough, but we are unique ,maybe we are not beautiful , but in somebody's eyes ,our ugliness turns to beauty.
I don't like there are too many philosophic discussion or deep meditation in any blog.

YOU are the LOVERS

You are The Lovers

Motive, power, and action, arising from Inspiration and Impulse.

The Lovers represents intuition and inspiration. Very often a choice needs to be made.

Originally, this card was called just LOVE. And that's actually more apt than "Lovers." Love follows in this sequence of growth and maturity. And, coming after the Emperor, who is about control, it is a radical change in perspective. LOVE is a force that makes you choose and decide for reasons you often can't understand; it makes you surrender control to a higher power. And that is what this card is all about. Finding something or someone who is so much a part of yourself, so perfectly attuned to you and you to them, that you cannot, dare not resist. This card indicates that the you have or will come across a person, career, challenge or thing that you will fall in love with. You will know instinctively that you must have this, even if it means diverging from your chosen path. No matter the difficulties, without it you will never be complete.

Martha BeallMitchell - a sad story , tragedy in the family

Martha Beall Mitchell was born on September 2, 1918, in Pine Bluff, Arkansas. She lived in a large, Victorian house and was spoiled by her wealthy parents. Outgoing and vivacious from the start, she was a popular girl with many friends. She was well known for her “gift of gab.” When she graduated from Pine Bluff High school in 1936, she wrote in her yearbook, next to her picture, “I love its gentle warble/ I love its gentle flow/ I love to wind my tongue up/ And I love to let it go.” She attended Stephens College in Columbia, Missouri. Like many women during World War II, she went to work, toiling at the Pine Bluff Arsenal, but Martha was an old-fashioned Southern belle who believed that women should work only in times of dire need.

A brief first marriage produced a son, Jay. After divorcing, Martha moved to Washington and met attorney John Mitchell. They married on December 30, 1957, and Martha was surprised when she became pregnant at the age of 42. In 1961, she gave birth to a daughter, Marty.

The Mitchells were a popular Washington couple who were always entertaining or being entertained. Martha was the picture of Southern femininity in ruffled dresses, bows, big hair, and hats. John Mitchell seemed to adore his wife and was amused by her big mouth and love of gossip. When he was chosen by Richard Nixon to run his 1968 presidential campaign, Mitchell warned Nixon that Martha was vociferous and had a tendency to over-dramatize, but Nixon told him not to worry about it. After the election, John Mitchell became Nixon’s attorney general, and Martha became a national figure, entertaining the public with her quick wit and flamboyant sense of style.

Things began to fall apart for Martha when the Watergate scandal exploded in October, 1972. The Washington Post reported that her husband, John, had authorized $250,000 to pay for bail and to hush up the Watergate burglars. Martha was apoplectic, believing the White house was using her husband as a scapegoat to protect Richard Nixon. Martha called Bob Woodward and Carl Bernstein, the two young reporters at the Post, to make her case that John was nothing but a puppet being manipulated by Nixon. Then she began to call other reporters, sometimes in the middle of the night. John Mitchell knew of his wife’s shenanigans, and at first defended her, accusing the press of exploiting a naïve Southern girl. Soon Nixon was on his case, however, and John reportedly went so far as to lock Martha in a closet to keep her from phoning the press.

White House tapes reveal that Nixon, while angry at Martha, didn’t feel there was much he could do to control her. The White House did, however, leak information on Martha’s alleged drinking problem. A great strain had been put on the Mitchell marriage, and by 1973, John Mitchell had had it with his unstable wife. He walked out of their Washington apartment, refusing to speak to Martha except through his lawyer. The breakup was exceedingly bitter; when Mitchell was sentenced for his Watergate crimes in February 1975, he said, “It could have been worse. They could have sentenced me to spend the rest of my life with Martha Mitchell.”

By that time, Martha was suffering from myeloma, a virulent bone marrow cancer with a very low cure rate. John Mitchell knew of his wife’s condition, and called her doctors several times, but refused to speak to Martha or visit her. Most heartbreaking of all, Marty, Martha and John's daughter, sided with her father, and never again saw her mother. On May 30, 1976, Martha Mitchell was rushed to a hospital in Washington, where she fell into a coma from which she never regained consciousness. She died nineteen days later, at the age of 57. At the end, only her son Jay and a few friends were with her.

a terrible day - maybe this is the way through which I can grow

the weather was really hot today, I could barely stand it . around 10 o'clock , to follow what I had promised to Ms Chen yesterday, I went to industrial & commercial bank of china to transfer the freight to Expeditors Shanghai , it may sounds very easy , but for my mistakes, it took me lots of time in the bank, it was about 11 a.m. when I was out of the bank, then I went to my office to fetch another important document , because the power was off in my company today, I had to find help at another place and pay it in Shenlong street , after that I went to the nearest bus stop , because I wanted to go to Wuhan Xiehe hospital . I waited and waited, no bus came , later I found out that the route of the bus was changed due to the road was under construction ,so I had to went to another bus station to take the bus, after I arrived at Hankou , I tried to find where was the hospital , but no sooner had I figured out the right direction, than I made a terrible mistake , I lost my wallet, after I realized what had happened, I said to myself that I had no a fen ,how could I go back to my place! terrible ! just like a nightmare! then I got into a yellow taxi and desperately went to the bank where the lost debit card was issued , but because my ID was also in my lost wallet,they could not help me to report the loss formally, as an alternative, they told me I can report the loss of my debit card informally by calling and notifying the bank if I remembered the code , unfortunately I forgot it . I was so worried about my lost debit card, maybe the money deposited in the card had already been drawn out by that damn asshole , then it will be really terrible for me !
I tried to find a way to persuade the clerk of the bank to help me , after lots of calls and long period of time ,it was done, but I must go to the bank and give a much formal report of loss.
today it totally was a nightmare for me. I was so unlucky!